My 4 year old comes up with her own hairstyles, one braid and one pigtail is something she chooses often. So, one day we went to ecfe and she had one pigtail and one braid and two different shoes. I don't try to talk her out of these things. I make sure she is wearing appropriate clothing but beyond that, it's pretty much open. When we got to ecfe, some other mothers were asking if it was opposite day and giggling . My 4 year old, kind of shyly hugged me and I just said "this is just her style." And it is. I want her to feel proud of who she is and not feel like she has to fit a mold. I realize it's hard for us, me included, to accept different without reason. There must be a reason her shoes don't match, not that it was a conscious choice. This is filtered into so much of what we accept as a society. As for now, my daughter payed no real attention to the questioning. My hope is that she holds her head high and feels confident in her choices!